Seven facts that can help to make us become an ideal life partner

Just Be You!
The deepest secrets of the universe are hidden in the soul of each one of us. Yet, it is just a very small percentage of us who reach out and help our souls to express themselves.

Learn to be comfortable with yourself! Like Yourself!
It is so obvious isn't it? Yet, most of us simply don't do that. The harsh words of criticism that we may have faced somewhere down in our childhood has left its lasting mark. Learn to be gentle and kind with yourself. Understand that you, as an adult, are capable of making responsible and mature decisions in your life.

Be a Happy person
It is only if you are happy from within, that you can share the happiness with another. To verify this statement, you need to have little more than a bowl of water. Fill it to the brim and observe how the water simply overflows.

Our attitudes can colour the way we behave and react in our lives completely. Attitudes are contagious. If you have an upbeat and positive attitude, you will radiate that and transform the lives of all those around you.

Be proud of yourself!
You are the person you are. Buck teeth, baldpate, over weight, pock marks on the face, short stubby, bowed legs, grey hair, crow's feet, laugh lines, puny arms, shrill, high pitched voice… it doesn't really matter! You are who you are with your own unique identity and your own unique sense of humour and your own wonderful ways of experiencing and understanding the world.

You may have failed to pass matriculation but you may be successful at running a business. It doesn't matter whether you have been sacked from ten jobs in ten years, or you have divorced thrice. It doesn't matter whether you are doing the same job for the 15 years on the same salary or if you stutter while speaking.

It doesn't matter - as long as you don't develop a complex about it. Always remember that each one of us is special in our own way. We are the way we are because we are meant to be that way in God's divine plan. There will always be someone somewhere out there in the universe who will find the same qualities that you consider in yourself as unappealing rather devastatingly attractive.

Keep a diary
Write down little notes in your dairy about your feelings. This is very important. Most of us in this fast paced world are losing touch with our feelings. Keep time off each day when all you do is think about all the things that you want to do in life. Make a set of lists. List out your goals, short term, long term and lifetime goals. Make a time frame in which you plan to achieve them. Write down truthfully in your diary the sad, happy and hurtful experiences that have happened. A diary can help you come closer to understanding your own self.

Imagine yourself married
Now imagine yourself as married and think about how you and your life partner could work towards achieving some of those goals. Write down very simply what marriage means to you and what kind of qualities you expect to see in the person whom you would like to marry. Write out a hundred and one fun things that you would like to share and experience with someone else, besides your own self. Talk to people whom you admire and respect as a happily married couple. Find out what they have to say about what marriage means to them.

List out your likes and dislikes
Once again, we harp on the fact that you need to be really close to your true self, to know yourself really, really well! You can do that only if you systematically analyse your actions, your reactions, your likes, dislikes, good habits, bad habits, strengths and weaknesses. There is a method by which you can come closer to knowing yourself.

It is very important to be alert and watchful about yourself so that you can introspect and come closer to knowing about the person you really are. Study your emotional self. Study how you react when you are sad, angry, happy, hurt or resentful.

Conclusion
Once you have these concepts very, very clear in your mind - knowing the kind of person that you are and knowing the kind of life partner you are looking for - you can really begin your search. The best way to begin this search is by getting help to know yourself better and even the one you are looking for, with whom you are most compatible.