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Be
frank and open
Each one of us is well aware of the significance
of communication in various relationships
of our lives. The relationships that mean
the most to us or to which we associate fondly
are the ones where there is always a meaningful
communication or a 'heart-to-heart' openness.
The level of closeness and intimacy in any
relationship is directly proportional to the
amount, extent & quality of communication
that takes place between the people sharing
that relationship.
Whereas the importance of communication in
any relationship can neither be denied nor
under-estimated, being communicative with
one's partner in a relationship is perhaps
one of the more challenging and difficult
acts. Not because communication is essentially
precarious, but because the very thought of
revealing our 'true' selves - our needs, wants,
weaknesses, vulnerabilities, dreams, aspirations
- to another person feels as though we were
exposing ourselves completely to him/her and
thereby allowing him/her to hurt or deceive
us or to take advantage of us in the long
run.
On account of their bitter past experiences
or personal insecurities, many people feel
that their partner would loose his/her interest
in them if they disclosed their ’inner’
selves upon him/her. They use their quiet
and non-communicative attitude as a shield
against all possible forces trying to snatch
their partner away from them. What they fail
to realize is that by restraining themselves
from communicating with their partners, they
are also tearing apart every possible thread
of intimacy, closeness, understanding and
affection that forms the basis of a loving
relationship and sooner or later their partner
would get involved with someone who can compensate
for all their lackings & promise them
a normal relationship.
Avoid
conflicting issues
Sharing and caring are two essential ingredients
of a vital relationship. Relive the memories
of the good times you and your partner have
spend together by talking frequently about
it. More importantly, tell them about your
'apart' times when your partner was away from
you and how much you missed and longed to
be with him/her! By reminding him/her of the
sweet memories of 'yesterday', you are not
only reassuring each other of all the happiness
that awaits you 'tomorrow', but also implying
how much means he/she means to you and how
much you love and care about him/her.
Be a good listener
For most people, the art of communication
lies in talking constantly and overtly to
their heart's content. While this may apparently
be true, it may not always be the case, especially
in case of close relationships. A good communication
is always a reciprocal conversation where
two or more individuals share their views
and not a monologue where one person goes
on to emphasize his/her views without asking
others their opinions or letting them contribute
their feedbacks. While talking to your partner,
be sensitive enough to observe his/her reaction.
There are times when all of us need to talk
and give an outlet to our pent-up emotions.
At the end of a long, tiring day, your partner
might be all worked up over a tiff he/she
had at work, pre-occupied with the legal formalities
of a bank loan or sad about the demise of
a colleague, it is for you to be sensitive
and observant enough to notice his/her behavior
and be prepared to listen while he/she talks.
If your partner is the quite/introverted types,
there might be times when you go on yapping
for hours and then realize all of a sudden
that he/she had not been paying attention
to your words at all. Such a situation can
be pretty vulnerable and even though it is
only human for you to feel ignored & hurt,
knowing the temperament of your partner, you
must change the course of your conversation
in such a way that he/she is forced to speak
out his/her mind and feels lighter at the
end of the day.
After all, a true companionship is all about
sharing and caring. Isn't it? |
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