As human beings,
each of us is born with our own set of characteristics,
which constitute our basic personality. It
is unlikely that two individuals are 100%
alike or have everything in common between
them.
So long as we stay single, the issue of 'adjustment'
does not often arise & so the 'individuality'
of our traits is confined to us alone. However,
once we decide to change our 'single' status
and enter the institution of 'marriage', things
undergo a change beyond our anticipation.
Whereas it is unlikely that after marriage
our prospective spouse will change himself/herself
completely to become exactly like us, we can
nevertheless minimize the compromise in our
relationship by avoiding an extreme situation
& consciously choosing someone who is
compatible or like-minded,
who matches our personality, who understands
and shares our views, and who is willing to
walk together with us on the pathway of life.
Compatibility :
The foundation of a happy marriage
For years, the issue of compatibility
has been ignored in the conventional system
of arranged marriages in India & more
than often, our marriages are the outcome
of a social & cultural obligation rather
than an individual's conscious decision to
share his/her life with the person of their
choice. Apparently, the best available match
based on conventional qualities like looks,
height, weight, occupation, social & financial
status etc. is taken to be a guarantee to
a happy married life.
What most people fail to understand, however,
is that there is a vast difference between
finding the best match and
finding the most compatible
match.
The truth is, the more compatible
your life partner, the happier your married
life. |