The best hospital for the child’s birth
The costliest cradle to him to sleep
The choicest of clothes for him to wear
The loveliest toys for him to play
The most famous school for him to attend
Heartfelt wishes and blessings for him to prosper…

If dreams were sold, if stars were reachable, if the moon would agree, parents would bring them all down and place it in the palm of their child. For people, everything is fair in love, war and the smile on their child’s face and the twinkle in his eyes.

A child is the joyous celebration of parent’s own life. Parenthood is a proud moment for a couple to whom the birth of a child is bringing in a life. In the eyes of the little one, the parents embed their dreams and await its fulfillment with a love that knows no boundaries.

When their nurturing and all the pampering is not questioned, why is their expectations or wishes for the child’s wedding questioned? Are parents expected to just take care of a child’s needs and complete it as a responsibility, with no expectations or affections involved? Do they stand nowhere in the selection or election of a spouse for their child?

When all their previous judgments were in favour of the child’s benefit, why not in the issue of marriage? Don’t they want the best for their child? Don’t they know what’s best for their child?

The child-parent clashes over marriage is a major issue these days. Both sides have their points, but how to solve the issue amicably without heartbreak to either side is the question.

In a country like India, parents of the recent generations have been very liberal towards their children. All the liberties that they did not enjoy as kids have been bestowed upon their children. Every parent bring up their child as the emperor to their world. The child is free to choose everything of his fancy from a tender age and none of his demands are denied. When refused, the child who grows with such pampered upbringing resents refusal and resorts to aggressive behavior.

A parent’s acceptance or denial is taken for granted and hardly matters, as the child knows he shall be obliged. This is not a sign of evil or non-consideration on the child’s part, but an attitude that has been imbibed by his up-bringing.

Such a child, who later becomes eligible for marriage, has views, wishes and wants of his own. With the belief that his expectations are the same as his parents, he chooses a spouse of his liking. This could be opposed by the parents and it leads to an emotional turmoil between them.The child mistakes the parent’s refusal or non-acceptance as a non-consideration of his feelings. The parents on their side feel it is a restriction on their rights over their child. This leads to the fight of rights between the parents and their child resulting in bitterness for both.