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cultures where marriage is for keeps and
the relationship of a husband and wife
are compared to godliness one unsaid truth
always exists- other than all necessary
ingredients, the level of
sacrifice is immense in both partners.
You’ve heard enough on the atypical
kinds of sacrifices, which couples claim
they are ready for or are currently practicing
selflessness in their relation but if
you still think your giving more than
receiving then that’s what you should
read about below.
Are the below few of the many compromises you feel you’ve done in the past in your marriage, or feel a sense of non comfort if…
…you had to sacrifice your freedom?
…your personal independence is lost?
…you gave up the kind of life you wished for?
…you gave up your studies?
…you gave up a flourishing career?
…you take up the entire responsibility of the kids?
…your parents are thoroughly ignored?
…you always do what the other person likes but never get reciprocation?
The list of ill feelings is never ending. However this does not mean that you’re right when you feel any or more of the above.
IT’S ALWAYS THE PERCEPTION OF THE
PERSON & NOT THE ACTUAL SITUATION
THAT GIVE RISE TO OUR SET OF PERSONAL
FEELINGS
Marriage is way beyond cribbing
about life and its spitefulness.
The sudden cyclic changes that we receive
on a platter, is an inevitable truth that
every couple must share sportingly. As
life moves there are new challenges that
the couple must deal with and eventually
come to terms by one compromising more
than the other. This then is truly the
essence of a healthy living.
As life moves on you’ll realize
that no sacrifice went unnoticed and did
result in some positive change.
Temper:
the worst enemy!
What can actually continue a harmonious
wedding is the fact that both the couples
keep their temper tantrums at a minimal.
A bad day, frustrating boss, fight with
the mother in law, high-pitched children,
no amount of excuses are good enough to
intrude the harmony of the home.
It’s best to seclude your own space
for few minutes on returning home like:
• Spending some time in the
bathroom/bedroom. (If those are your favorite
corners!)
• Having a long shower,
• Watching your favorite channel
for a particular time,
• Talking on the phone (if
that’s one of your hobbies)
• Or taking a short nap if
it re livens your spirits.
• Spending qualitative time
with a particular family member in solace
In a fight:
The base of a fight is
always either frustration, miss understanding
or a repressed anger that has now become
unbearable.
It’s best to finish the argument
by sorting the base than the actual flare
up, before it can result in a fight especially
a non- ending one.
Fights that linger on are like sores,
they destroy more than they are meant
to. They also affect all that is around
them, just like a fight between two people
can hamper or aggravate trivial problems
or relations of people around them.
A fight amongst a couple must begin and
end in the four walls of the bedroom or
they should be ready to bear the adverse
consequences by letting others interfere.
The ego of the partners will definitely
creep in the presence of a third other.
Couples who take care of the
above are always at greater advantages
of creating homes- rather than houses.
Such couples are known to be living the
essence of superior marriages.
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