can take a horse to the waters, but cannot
make it drink…
an ailment, prescribe medicine and if necessary,
operate too. That’s all they can do.
Being regular in medication, developing good
health, maintaining it, realising what’s
good for you and what’s not is upto
you. Similarly, how much ever other people
help you find a match and get you married,
saving a marriage or making it work will solely
be dependent on you.
People who help you in fixing your match may
not be there to straighten things when they
go wrong. The only person who shall bear responsibility
and also the one to suffer its consequences
will be you. No matter how well they wish
for you, it is always only you who will have
to make it work. Family, friends and well-wishers
can only suggest a partner but the ultimate
decision has to be yours. Nobody can live
your life for you. Then why would you rely
on others for it?
You no longer need distant relatives, friendly
neighbourhood aunts or the extended family
members switch the torch lights on to find
you the Mr/Ms. Right. History lessons have
taught us that ‘swayamvar’ was
the most practised way of marriage among our
ancestors. It was considered best to choose
one’s own spouse and that explains the
longevity of married couples in the past and
also the current existence of the institution
You could follow the method of Swayamvar even
today. It only demands a little effort and
faith in your own instincts. We at Vivah.com
shall assist you on your journey of finding
your perfect match.
It cannot be denied that most immediate relationships
begin with impressive physical appeal or vibes.
In the beginning it is fine, but when the
charm wanes out, it is always the compatibility
and emotional ability to merge with each other
that matters in holding the relationship.
Marriage is the most intimate of human relationships
and like the others, dwells not only on just
mutual love, trust and respect, but also understanding
and bonding. Marriages may be decided among
the celestial beings but making it work is
a matter down to earth.
First things first, for any two individuals
to get into committed relationship, there
has to be compatibility. Their likes, dislikes,
ideas and opinions should interest each other.
The stereo-types and prejudices should match
to avoid unpleasant situations.