Questions that you need to ask yourself
Ask yourself what are the examples of great marriages that you have seen: Try and see if you can recollect any snatches of conversation, any action that your parents did, or may be it was your friend's parents, or may be someone in the neighbourhood, at whose house you have spent some time, which persist in your mind about what a great marriage feels like to you.

Understand and evaluate the role of the positive and negative influences in your life:
There are ways and ways in which our thoughts are subconsciously influenced? Remember, although it is conventionally believed that most of our attitudes are shaped for life based on how we perceived the world when we were young, that theory is getting quite a bit of shaking up. For most of us are really a lot more flexible than that and can continuously mould and adapt ourselves to changing circumstances and current situations.

Understand the role of the critical factors influencing you:
When you carry out this exercise, at all times avoid being judgmental. That can be devastating! Especially if based on your observations of all those familiar faces around you who have stood by you during your good times and bad times, that you are now judging that very personal factor in their lives - their marriage.

Remember at all times that you are not someone to judge or conclude anything about anyone, because everyone has their own individual circumstances which may make their actions just the right thing for them to do in their lives.

However, you should do this exercise simply so that you can learn what it is that makes for a good marriage, what attitudes and habits you have consciously imbibed from the people in your life. Also remember that you are doing this exercise only so that you can become a better and more caring human being. And what you need to remember at all times is that the divine spirit is there to guide, judge and deliver justice. There is no need for you to comment, criticize or condemn anyone.

Your circle of friends
You may be surprised how often and how you may have unconsciously picked up certain habits, styles of speaking or certain food preferences from your colleagues at the workplace.

Observe your friends carefully. Try to understand and evaluate whether they are happily married, happily engaged or still looking out. Try and understand what marriage means to them.

Try out some practical exercises, like inviting your friends for dinner or lunch or a get together with their fiancées, girlfriends and spouses. Observe everything, but make sure that you don't look as if you are having your eyeballs peeled out or walking around with a little notebook in your hands. Be discreet.