True love does not happen, it evolves.

Such relationship can be established only through the bonding between two individuals. Such bonding which is quintessential for inter-personal relationships to sustain and grow is what we call Compatibility. When another person’s presence enhances your own, it’s compatibility. The ability to be companions is compatibility. It is the positive correspondence between people.

In the arena of finding a life partner, compatibility is measured through age, religion, education, occupation, etc. Compatibility is also often mistaken as being tolerant of or withstanding another person.

Love is certainly the deciding factor for sustaining relationships. But love in relationships is a result of non-conflicting personalities. Conflicts in relationships arise when there is a lack of personality compatibility. Compatibility exists between complementing and corresponding personalities. It requires knowing the emotional, sexual, intellectual and spiritual interests of a person, because, being well tuned in one aspect of life does not guarantee couples as wholly compatible.

Most often than not, people suffer in relationships, mainly because they are well matched but ill suited. Only when people are well suited, their personas harmonize and this grows into true love.

Love based on this kind of compatibility lasts longer, sometimes forever. Compatibility brings in not just love but also comfort in relationships. For any two individuals to get into committed relationship, there has to be compatibility. Not only their likes, dislikes, ideas and opinions should interest each other, the stereo-types and prejudices should also adaptively match to avoid unpleasant situations.

When there is no compatibility in a relationship, it suffers. Compatibility often leads to love that lasts, but love may not always lead to compatibility.
When a match is decided upon by physical attributes or preferences, it leads to infatuation or attraction for a brief period. In the begining it is fine, but when the charm wanes out and the other characteristics of the couple show up, the relationship goes sour. It is always compatibility and emotional ability to merge with each other that matters in holding the relationship. On the other hand, if a couple have compatible personalities, their relationship is bound to grow and sustain. The important rule for survival of a relationship is the fine tuning between the couple and this has to be attained by taking right decisions and choosing the right life partner. For marriages to last beyond romance, partners should be able to relate and recognise each other’s positive traits and help overcome the others. Years later in a successful marriage, love remains long after the romance fades out and this is the combined result of trust, respect and acceptance of each other.