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Have you ever wondered
why you tend to like some people instantly
even without knowing them, whereas some
other people, who would have been particularly
nice to you, put you off consistently by
their very sight?
In trying to attach a scientific explanation
to the art of interaction, one might sum
it up the following way: Whenever two people
exchange looks, greet each other or indulge
in an active communication, they tend to
send out vibrations (vibes) in the form
of energy waves. Depending upon the positivity
or negativity of the vibes, we tend to feel
good or bad about that person. Many a times,
even though a person might talk sweetly,
the vibes flowing from him/her carry a negative
connotation, and the other person not only
senses the lack of coordination between
his/her thoughts and words but may also
become aware of his/her intentions. Similarly,
at certain occasions, people who have always
been good in thoughts and deeds may surprise
you by the rudeness in their attitude or
in the words coming out of their mouth,
even though, knowing them, you find it hard
to believe that their intentions are wrong.
Create the ' right' first impression
Among the primary code of conduct passed
on to us for generations is: "Your
first impression is the last impression."
The lesson of casting the 'right' first
impression begins at home and continues
to be an important part of our lives all
through.
When we meet someone for the first time,
he/she has no pre-conceived image of us
stored in the memory. Because of this, the
first impression we cast upon that person
becomes deeply imprinted on his/her mind
and is hard to erase or forget later, unless
in exceptional circumstances. It is therefore
extremely important to be careful about
casting the 'right' first impression on
anyone we are meeting for the first time.
An impression once formed is hard to change,
so it becomes vital for us to not only know
who & what we are, but also how would
we like to be perceived by the other person.
Whereas no two people we meet are similar,
the way we meet them and the impression
we create upon them needs to be also varied
according to the following :
- The purpose & context of our meeting
- The relationship we share with the
person we are meeting and
- The desired impact we would like them
to have of us
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