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| DO's
and DON'Ts of a potential relationship
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In any potential
relationship, without the beginning base of
truth, trust cannot occur. Without the development
of trust, respect will never be born. Without
a level of respect for each other, a functional
relationship of love and commitment will not
seed and nourish. Intimacy occurs when we
are willing to share ourselves completely
with another in this order. It is the gift
we get when we learn to engage in a balanced,
loving relationship.
Know who you are
To ensure a happy married life, you must seek
a 'compatible' life partner. In common terms,
the word compatibility means "like minded"
or someone who shares similar views, attitudes,
habits, dreams, aspirations etc. Before u
seek your 'alter ego' to spend the rest of
your life with, ask yourself- Do you like
who you are? Are you happy with your self-image?
Know what you want out of a relationship
Are you clear about what you want out of a
relationship? Or, you've just been going around
demanding things your friends and family members
have advised you to seek in a relationship?
Tell yourself the truth about what you want,
not what others (family, friends, spouse)
say you should have. Tell everyone else the
truth about what you want. Don't be afraid
to share your vision and dreams with those
you love.
Be honest
Truth is the first pre-requisite for building
trust in relationships. Respect is earned
from trust, and love is earned from respect.
Never put honesty at stake in any relationship
by concealing facts or being apprehensive
about the consequences of revealing the truth.
Being truthful to yourself and to others and
being able to communicate your emotions frankly
is the only way to creating a bond of trust
and harmony in a relationship.
Work on relationship
Remember there are no easy roads, no shortcuts
in relationships. Every relationship is unique.
Getting into a relationship might seem easy,
but sustaining it for a lifetime requires
one to constantly work on it. It takes two
to form a relationship and if one of the person
is in the habit of acting on his/her emotional
impulses and rushing in and out of relationships
without devoting it sufficient time and putting
the blame on the partner, it only proves his/her
own failure as a human being and reflects
their incapability to understand the graph
of successful and long-lasting relations in
life. Be patient. Be kind. But most of all,
be empathetic and understanding.
Live in the present
If you are both committed to creating a happy
and harmonious relationship, agree to start
doing it today, without any judgments or prejudices
about the past. Instead of focusing on the
problems, be willing to work on the solutions.
Let go off your need to control the consequence
of each decision you take; Live from moment
to moment, one day at a time. The true joy
of living can only be experienced in the present
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