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A happy marriage
is built on the foundation of love, trust
and commitment. A union of mind, body and
soul, in which two people are joined to enjoy
a lifelong love & companionship that endures
all trials and tribulations of life. Ignorant
of this fact, many people walk into marriage
full of fanciful thoughts & thinking that
the honeymoon will never end.
The true success of a marriage lies is the
word 'together'. The ability
and willingness to overcome difficulties and
grow together with each experience of life.
However, it becomes challenging when due to
individual differences, conflicting issues
arise continuously and adjustment is almost
impossible. The truth is, most people allow
love and romance to be the determining factor
for marriage. True, we must have both for
a marriage to work. But, when the 'newness'
of this 'fairy tale' romance ends and reality
begins to unfold itself, it is compatibility,
alone which sustains the relationship.
Compatibility is vital,
yet it is something that many relationships
lack. As mentioned earlier, by nature no two
individuals are alike and so, it is impossible
to like everything about each other. However,
too many different interests and tastes are
bound to weaken the bond.
Of all relationships in life, true
friendship is indeed the most enduring;
And so, for a marriage to be happy & ever-lasting,
it becomes a pre-requisite that before two
people get into the roles of ' 'husband' &
'wife', they becomes each other's best friends-knowing
about each other's wants, needs, interest,
aspirations, goals, fears, secrets, desires
etc. Often couples that rush into marriage
and do not value the 'friendship' aspect find
themselves consulting 'others' about their
confidential marriage issues. This lack of
friendship sometimes also leads them to infidelity,
since individuals who are unsuccessful in
finding comfort in their partner end up seeking
comfort elsewhere!
On the other hand, friendships that evolve
into relationships are happy & lasting
because as friends, the individuals have already
established a bond of compatibility
and understanding & have
come to know each other. As friends, they
are aware of each other's behaviour and attitudes,
strengths and weaknesses & have accepted
each other just the way they are.
In the long run, a couple that is truly compatible
will develop a bond of friendship, love &
mutual respect that will together form a strong,
solid foundation to a happy married life! |
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