| Hakunamatata!
Everybody wants to be happy.
Happiness to most means realization of dreams.
Dreams of a lifestyle, a la Yash Chopra
film in Switzerland, a sinful combination
of luxury and fantasy, a family straight
lifted from Sooraj Barjatya's joint family
singing 'ABCD...', dancing and eating together.
Unfortunately, reality and life chose parallel
cinema, not commercial cinema to relate.
Hey wait! We're not getting cynical, nor
are we saying that asking to be happy is
bad or evil, for every human has the right
to display his shining pearls. 'Say Cheeze'.
In fact all those dull people should be
given a laughing - gas treatment or a free
membership to a laughter club to set them
right.
Contentment is the key to Happiness and
comes from being in love with life (read
wife). It is the result of sharing happiness
and life with another person you love. And,
what better way to share your life with
another than get married to him/her?
But many people contest what is said above
and complain that marriage is not Contentment
but Confinement.
So, what does marriage in reality lead to?
Contentment or Confinement?
Confinement is the restriction or limitation
one faces after getting married. Therefore
marriage is often accused of holding back
freedom within several boundaries. The modern
concept of 'individual breathing space';
is put to test when one has to be answerable
to their spouse. As a result they feel that
they cannot behave independently.
These restrictions usually arise due to
suspicions or feelings of insecurity of
losing your loved one. Commitment is thought
to be similar to confinement. As a result,
one is not allowed to socialise, especially
with the opposite sex. This may lead to
further rifts, frustrations and even infidelity.
The only solution (clichéd, but really
works wonders!) is to Trust and Respect
each other. For, it’s not
marriage, but human attitudes that have
limitations.
Envy - one of the seven deadly sins - is
also something to be warned against. Lack
of calmness and inner peace in a person
arises out of discontentment with who they
are (in appearance, skills, health, and
all) in comparison with others, makes them
envious of their better halves. They may
then try to outsmart the other. Remember!
Marriage is not for competitors.
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