Although there's no
such thing as perfection, what the word
should imply may be preferred levels and
pathways of achieving! Therefore, in your
effort to seek a life mate and the qualities
that you are looking for in the person whom
you think would be your ideal soul mate,
try and see if you can match some criteria
that would qualify you in the other person's
similarly stringent list.
Seven absolutely
essential things that you need to do
in order to become a perfect match
1. Be a good conversationalist |
| What does this really
mean? After you have greeted your companion
with a wide, ear-to-ear grin, and said 'Hi!'
enthusiastically, how do you keep his or
her attention focussed on you? Some things
that are always interesting, never fail
to cheer are good humour, interesting anecdotes
and of course, the current most happening
situation in your side of town. Sensational
news narrated in a vivid and dramatic manner
is a sure attention grabber. After humour,
another essential ingredient that adds spice
and sparkle to any conversation is wit.
Try to be witty. If at first, it does not
come naturally to you, read and memorize
those unforgettable one-liners that made
some of history's moments so memorable.
Then, learn to deliver them with style and
panache. Of course, if you can recollect
who said it and in what famous occasion,
it always adds to the grandeur of the occasion.
However, if you can master the skill of
making a witty retort, without having to
draw on inspirational quotes from the great
ones, so much the better. Being witty is
as much a skill that can be learnt as driving
a car. Wittiness is all about the appropriate
play of words that gives a different meaning
or a new perspective of the same a situation.
Go through your old history books. Rummage
around for those interesting anecdotes about
great men and women in history. Try and
see if you can trace out some of them, which
you can link to any quality in you, which
you consider not so smart or savvy! See
if you can add a touch of glamour to those
qualities.
Interesting anecdotes are not simply entertaining
or endearing. Most importantly, such anecdotes
can be very inspiring and educational. To
learn and evolve to become a better human
being is a quest that most of us are undertaking
consciously or unconsciously anyways. Wouldn't
it be better then to take a conscious step
in this direction in a preferentially entertaining
way?
Don't commit the conversation blunder that
the inexperienced are fond of doing. They
go so overboard in talking that they forget
that the other person too wants to share
with you just as much verbally, that you
are sharing with that person. To be a good
conversationalist, you need not talk non-stop
and gasp for breath.
A good conversation can be punctuated well
by silent interludes, which give one space
and freedom to explore and reflect on the
meaning of words just spoken. More importantly,
a good conversation should really feel like
a place where your mind can just go out,
explore and vibe in harmony with another
mind.
Remember, the phrase, " talking like
you are pouring all your heart out".
Well, there's much to be said for that.
Don't spill out words by the bucketful.
Give time off for the other person to explore,
conclude and share with you some thoughts
just as much as you are doing.
Although it is better to avoid gossiping
totally, innocent gossip can sometimes add
to the fun of an interesting conversation.
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