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Honour your intuitions
While dealing with relationships in general
and on the Internet in particular, people
often tend to dismiss intuition in favour
of seemingly hard facts and logical explanations.
However, even though we cannot generalise
our experiences or opinions, we must never
disregard our instincts, even when they
cannot be logically explained. Because when
something feels wrong, it generally is.
Similarly, when someone appears untrustworthy,
they usually are. If it is within your capacity,
you could even crosscheck on the other person
with the help of a confidential source.
And, while you are doing so, ask yourself
why you are interested in forming a relationship
with someone you feel the need to investigate?
Watch closely for clues
Watch out for any form of 'inconsistency'
or 'unexplainable' behaviour on the part
of your potential mate.You should be concerned
if he/she does any of the following without
offering an acceptable explanation:
- Frequently disappears and becomes inaccessible
by phone and/or email
- Provides inconsistent information about
age, interests, appearance, marital status,
profession, employment, and so on
- Refuses to speak to you on the phone
after establishing ongoing, online intimacy
- Refuses to give you a home number and
only calls you from work
- Doesn't provide direct answers to direct
questions
- Appears in person to be significantly
different from his or her online persona
- Never introduces you to friends, professional
associates or family members
Be honest and trustworthy yourself
If we want to hear the truth, we must start
by telling the truth, even when it might
not seem easy or advantageous. And we must
conduct our emotions and ourselves in a
responsible manner. Don't fall in love at
the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely
intimate with someone, even if that intimacy
only occurs online. Live by standards of
honesty and decency. Keep a check on your
emotions. Don't let the realities of real
world fade into the vague fantasies of virtual
world. Be your own guard. Remember a genuine
& long-lasting relationship is never
an act of impulse; It develops gradually
and naturally on it's own with time. |