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Your
grandparents
Move the time frame 50 years down the time
line and you will see vignettes of your grandparents
in black and white. Shadowy figures, which
just deceptively appeared to come from a different
world. Yet, they too suffered the same insecurities
that you do, and somehow, came shining through,
without counsellors, with only one another
and of course the entire family to hold on
to, for support.
Your brothers,
sisters, cousins and other relatives
Look right! Look left! You may see your brothers,
sisters, cousins and other relatives closer
to your age, moving through the flush of a
first romance to more mature relationships.
As you watch them nestled in their lives in
different stages of a journey made towards
achieving perfect rapport with their spouses,
you may slowly begin to form a mental picture
of how you would like your life with your
marriage partner to be.
Your
role model
This figure perhaps has changed over the years
- from your teenage years right down to the
young man / woman that you are now. Even as
your role models have changed, try to appreciate
the differences and similarities in the people
whom you have chosen to inspire from.
Your mentor
The person who has always been there to guide
you, lend you a shoulder to lean and really
be there through all your troubled times.
Has it never occurred to you to look up to
your mentor as a human being with a love life?
If so, take some time off to slowly and carefully
analyse the choice your mentor has made in
his life partner, the distinct ways in which
your mentor and his or her spouse communicate
with each other. Try to look at the qualities
each one values in the other and most of all
try to understand their views on marriage.
Conclusion
Remember, to have a successful marriage, you
need to have some of the very same qualities
and skills that are required in doing any
task successfully. Commitment, patience, perseverance
and of course a great deal of understanding
come as camouflaged ingredients in all those
who have a wonderful, thriving relationship.
However, the starting point for any great
relationship would be the people involved.
Having to compromise in a relationship can
mean a very sad story and sometimes an unhappy
ending to a relationship too.
As an emotionally mature adult, you need to
make sure that you are with the right person,
as much you need to be the right person for
your potential soulmate. This can be an incredibly
complex problem if you have no means of checking
out your partner's habits, attitudes, likes
and dislikes in a very anonymous way. For
example, in most arranged marriages, potential
partners know almost nothing about one another.
These hidden problems only surface after it's
too late, i.e. after they get married. Which
is why using tools like the IMAGEngine
Summaries one can make a more correct
decision regarding the choice of one's life
partner. (The emphasis is to marry the BEST
PERSON FOR YOU and not the BEST ONE AVAILABLE!) |
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